Journey on Forgiveness

Welcome to a Journey with Joyce

Our journey this week will focus on Forgiveness Interpersonal Wellness®

It is safe to say that many of my coaching clients are looking for ways to move forward in their lives, to overcome obstacles such as past hurts as they strive to grow or to set and reach new goals. Many are unaware that forgiveness of past hurts could be the key to their moving forward and reaching their goals. The coaching process provides an excellent structure to help clients assess the cause of their roadblocks and to examine issues of forgiveness and other underlying assumptions and commitments that may be holding them back. Forgiveness can set you free to do the things you desire and to have all the things you want in your life. At the same time, forgiveness can be the cause of your staying stuck. This week I want to help you to go deeper and assess what is holding you back.

Reflections

Forgiveness, in the broad general sense, is the decision to move past a hurt, injustice or painful experience that has caused you anger, resentment, disappointment, frustration, betrayal or a desire for revenge. Forgiveness may also include releasing ill will towards the person or persons who caused you hurt. It is the process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation, or anger against another person for a perceived offense. It is also ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. Is there a hurt you are holding unto? How is it affecting your work or life relationship?

Coaching Questions

1. Is there someone at work whom you need to forgive?
   
2. Is there someone in your social or family life that you need to forgive?
   
3. What is one thing you can do this week to take you one step closer to forgiving?
   
4. Is there someone you can talk to about how you are feeling and that might help you move toward forgiveness?
   

 

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Relationship Wellness

There are various schools of thought on relationship wellness. Some believe that we have no control over what kinds of relationships that come to us, and others believe that we help to create our life relationships. While some believe that we attract certain people into our lives because we need to learn what they bring to our life. I tend to agree with all of these to some extent. I believe that though we may not be conscious of the relationship choices we may be making in our lives, it is possible to have a vision in our minds of the kinds of relationships we would like to co-create.

Don’t forget that we are co-creators and we can take certain steps to ensure that we are ready to co-create the kind of relationship we envision. For example, if I envision being in a respectful workplace relationship, I can reflect on my language and attitude to ensure that I am practicing respect in my exchanges with my current co-workers. I can examine the areas that need to be remedied and investigate resources such as new knowledge and skills to help me improve my efforts to be respectful. The same is true for other elements I can vision in any of my life relationships.

This past month, I was fortunate to be published as a co-author with several other experts on leadership and relationship, the book titled: Ready, Aim Excel. In this book I shared some views on Interpersonal Wellness and key points for achieving relationship wellness. You can access the E-book here.

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Journey with Joyce on Trust

Welcome to a Journey with Joyce

Building Trust for Interpersonal Wellness

Our journey this week will focus on trust as a means for developing Interpersonal Wellness®

Trust accounts for a very important aspect of our ability to develop and maintain interpersonally well relationships. First, we need to trust ourselves. This comes with developing our personal integrity. Only then will we be able to trust each other enough to be interdependent. I believe that self-trust will lead to a greater ability to develop trust in our interpersonal relationships. This past week, I spent some time reading Stephen M.R. Covey book called – “The Speed of Trust the One Thing that Changes Everything“. I recommend this book to those of you who are working to develop the spiritual wellness dimension of your life.

Many of you who are my clients have at some point work on developing your spiritual wellness. Your personal integrity is a vital part of developing self-trust. It is also important to your developing a healthy level of self-esteem. If you are currently working through the Interpersonal Wellness System book, as you strive to improve your Interpersonal Wellness Quotient (IWQ); I found many nuggets in Stephen’s book that will help you look at the issue of trust differently.  I have also provided you with some reflective and coaching questions to help you figure out the trust issue for yourself.  I look forward to hearing back from you.

In his book, Stephen draws the reader attention to the advantages of having trust in our Interpersonal relationships and in business. In reading his book, I think of all the situations I face where trust was an issue. According to Covey a lack of trust is very costly. He emphasized that with the arrival of 9/11 many people lost trust in flying, therefore we now have long line-ups for security checks, which amounts to a waste of time, money and productivity. What came to mind here was how much a lack of trust costs us in our personal relationships. Trust falls within the Spiritual Wellness dimension and is closely linked to hope. Often we do not trust others because we do not trust ourselves. To increase one’s spiritual wellness is to develop one’s personal trust, which in turn will require you to assess your personal integrity. Remember, trust is earned and should not be arbitrarily assigned, however it is key to having a harmonious and interpersonally well relationship. I encourage you this week to take a look at your own personal integrity and how it relates to trust.

Reflections

If we keep in mind that we are interdependent and interconnected, then it will be a lot easier for us to take the appropriate actions to build trusting relationships. As you take a look your life, are there areas where you need to grow and develop trust? Are you a credible person who acts with integrity and an intention to foster Interpersonal Wellness®?

Coaching Questions

1. What kinds of actions do you need to take to generate trust from others?
   
2. Are you satisfied with your sense of integrity or is there work to be done?
   
3. Is there an action that you are taking that is a roadblock to you trusting yourself?
   
4. What one action will you take this week to improve trust in a relationship?

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